Accept or decline

The other day on Facebook I had a friend request. I opened it up to see my former sister-in-law. Funny thing was that it took me a few minutes to decide wheather or not to accept this friend request. See she and I had been friends in High School and when her brother and I  broke up, well we drifted apart. A few years down the road, I get this wonderful phone call from my mother at work saying there was someone there who wanted to speak to me, and low and behold it was my ex-boyfriend. Well to say I as excited was an understatement, I was beyond thrilled. Well he was in the Army and we had this whrilwind romance and decided to get married (to quickly), well of course this meant that I was going to get back the girls I considered sisters. Things were good, but hard and I being young and stupid made some mistakes that I could never take back and the marriage didn't last long. I let people and things influence me instead of listening to myself and what I really wanted. You know that old say hindsight and all. Well of course I lost touch with those that I loved again. Getting back to the orginal story, so I sat there for a few miuntes wondering why she was friend requesting me now. I had been keeping in contact with the youngest sister, but I thought that the older sister had a lot of anger with me for asking her brother for a divorce. So, I finally clicked accept thinking one of two things... 1 she had some stuff she wanted to ream me about and finally found a way to do so or 2. She missed me like I missed her and wanted to rekindle that friendship. Well lucky for me it was option 2 and for that I am grateful because I feel like I have found something that has been missing from my life for a long time, and speaking with her and seeing pictures of her beautiful family made me glad I accepted that friend request.

My question is this. Is it taboo to still remain friends with your inlaws? I kinda wonder sometimes what my ex-husband would think about it. Life is funny. If I could give someone some advice I wish I had had, it would be this

1) Don't listen to what other people think you should do or who you should be with it's your life.

2) Before you make a rash decision based on emotion think twice and then think again because the outcome may not be what you truly want.

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3) When you love someone and I mean truly love them, don't doubt them or yourself. Don't second guess that decision or you will do something you may regret. Don't underestmate that persons love for you just because he/she doesn't tell you every hour of everyday. Trust in that person and know they love you no matter what, and when it gets hard don't just run away (like I did) cling to the fact that you both can make it though because of your love.

I have to say in closing when I got married for the first time I married exactly who I had wanted to, unfourtunatly there were two things that doomed us from the start. My inability to think for myself and My inability to realize he loved me even though he never really said it. I now am remarried and have been for a while now. I have gotten two of the most wonderful kids out of my marriage, I have a man who comes home everynight, and that is all I can say, I do know people say don't regreat the choices you make. I get that, but sometimes you know deep down that you made a wrong choice and there is nothing you can do to change it, people move on. I know that MY ex is remarried has two beautiful children and probably never even thinks about me, and all I can say is this...All I ever wanted was for him to find happiness and love, and if he has then that makes me happy.